What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
I went to school for a long time to learn about human behavior! I attend workshops and read professional journals every month. I have a bag of solutions for you which are based on research and evidence. My only goal is to help you – we have no history together, there is no hidden agenda or mixed loyalties. You are free to be honest, because you are safe with me.
I will teach you new skills and show you things from a different perspective. I will listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself.
Our work together is confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing your business.”
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor our sessions to what YOU want to change in your life, what your goals are. To improve communication, to improve relationships, to feel less stress, to learn to handle your emotions better….
How long will it take?
This depends from person to person. Everyone brings a unique set of problems to be solved, some are more complex than others. The length of time therapy can take depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. Everyone needs help now and then. People who ask for help know when they need it and are able to reach out. You already have many strengths that have brought you this far. Now it is time to get some support to learn some new ways of coping.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication is often very helpful and should be part of the overall solution. However, medication alone cannot solve all issues. For example, Cognitive Behavior Therapy PLUS medication has been shown to be very effective for anxiety and depression. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relationship goals.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions! Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. After all, we only see each other for a session a week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development. I will often assign you homework between sessions so you can practice the skills we discuss.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. Later, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues.